So last time we covered the issues that are of concern to working class people and people that are sleeping with a working class person. So that means that today we can move on to covering the issues that involve middle class people when it comes to sexuality. As briefly covered in the original introductory post in this series (as seen here) middle class people's common sexual issues relate mostly to repression and frustration which leads to some other related sexual issues. For this reason today's post will be covering sexual dysfunctions and how to overcome these issues and enjoy passionate sex despite their background.
So here goes. Because the middle class has a lot of problems living in the moment and being spontaneous this naturally comes up in sex with leads us to our main issue to overcome:
1. Over thinking sex
This issue comes from the attitude that everything in life can be broken down into an intellectual challenge and that we can all think our way out of any 'problem'. This attitude whilst not always ideal in the rest of life and relationships is not terrible due to the fact that one can fake engagement and focus even if they are not maintaining it in other parts of life. However in sex this faking it cannot be used without being noticeably a barrier to sexual enjoyment. In the case of the male this problem will show itself in the man having difficulty getting or maintaining an erection. This is not only a problem that affects men but it is much more obvious since a man cannot have sex in this state, whereas a woman can, she will of course find the sex less pleasurable.
Because this problem is caused by anxiety over the act the only real way to solve it is to find ways to put your mind at rest and to enjoy the sensual experience at hand on an instinctual level. This is however easier said than done, acts such as taking time to enjoy each other's company, caressing their body while they touch yours can naturally lead into sexual feelings without anyone feeling the need to 'plan' or 'manage' the sex, which are the exact offending thoughts that fuel this dysfunction.
Fear of sexuality
This second issue might not seem like one that would come up much for the open minded sort that frequent F-Buddy and I think that you would be right however the issues are by no means no existent here. Indeed there are many on F-Buddy that have found this community because they wish to meet their fantasies that they have yet to meet and in these instances the chances of fear playing a part is large. So you may need to deal with these feelings during your sexual adventures on F-Buddy even if you yourself are not afraid.
This problem comes from a dissonance that many middle class people feel between their 'daytime' personas and their sexual desires. The respectful office guy that dreams of cumming all over the face of his fuck buddy and then holding her down and fucking her roughly. The female nurse that wants a man to take her and make her feel degraded and used to please him. These are normal and healthy fantasies to have and in the right fuck buddy relationship these fantasies can be played out in a safe environment happily. But this can only happen if the people involved are not feeling guilt which is one of the biggest boner killers in life.
The way to tackle these feelings is as always to take things slow and remind the person that they are still the same person they have always been and that the beliefs that they have will be strengthened by acknowledging all sides to themselves and not denying anything. Remind them that they cannot control what turns them on but they can control what they do about it. So if something that you do not like comes out in your sexuality do not pretend you do not feel it but look at why and try to connect with who you are. Once you know yourself and your sexuality better you should find that you can learn to love multiple sides to yourself and that they do not need to challenge each other, but actually augment each other.
As I always say, a healthy and active sex life leads to a healthy and active life. Happy fucking everyone.
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