If you are a regular reader hopefully you read the last blog post here on the F-Buddy blog. If you missed it though do give it a read because this is part 2 in the short series on successfully playing the traditional roles in kinky sex sessions with your fuck buddy. The first part covered the role of the dom and how to get their sub into their place if they are causing trouble or the dom is struggling to keep them under control.
You can find the first part here.
So onto the main event, today I will be covering the role of the sub and some common issues that come up for subs and how to tackle these issues if they happen to you.
Firstly I want to give a quick defence of the sub. I think all too often the sub is considered the weak and easy role to play in the bedroom. Also it comes across that a lot of people seem to think that the desire to be dominated is something to be ashamed of or that it shows them to be somehow less of a strong and independent person. These judgements make me both very sad and angry. There is something in all of us that enjoys submitting and dominating. It is the interplay between these states that is exciting and the enjoyment of them is what makes life feel fiery and passionate for us all.
So to all you subs out there keep on being yourselves and don't ever let people think you are taking the easy way out, being a sub takes massive bravery and self confidence and trust. You are showing immense fortitude of spirit and heart to let yourself be taken into the dark world of your dom and trust that you will come out the other side in one piece.
Letting yourself go
The most common and of course understandable problem for subs is letting the dom take control. In the world we live in there is no room for anyone to take time where they submit complete control unto another person and so when in the bedroom this is attempted it is not surprising that subs struggle to let this habit to maintain control go.
So if you are a willing sub that is struggling with this take a moment to breath and imagine the power of your dom entering your very being. Feel there power and will thrusting into your mind and hold that feeling inside you. Even if you are unsatisfied by your dom's ability to over power you remember that this is a game of the mind. You can make them feel stronger than you by weakening yourself. Make whimpering and weak moaning noises. Look at your composure and posture. You want to bow your legs in as much as you can and hold your arms close to your body. Make yourself small and hide yourself so that they can spread you out and make you feel their domination.
You must not switch roles unless you know your fuck buddy is open to it otherwise you risk killing the moment and scaring the dom but this does not mean you cannot encourage the dom to take you harder and make you feel dirty and sexy. This is a subtle art though and one that takes practice, try coming up close to your dom and rubbing up against them like a cat or dog. Do not say anything to them but look at them expectantly with open eyes. This will often rouse their sexual urges and you might be surprised by how strong they will feel when they take you after you have shown that you are subservient to them and that you live to make them happy with your body.
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