Older people – women in particular – generally enjoy a much richer sex life then the mass media would have us believe. Women and men in their 40s and up are probably having more sex then most women and men in their 20s and 30s.
A survey conducted in the States on 50-87 year olds concluded that over 50% were enjoying regular oral sex and regular vaginal sex, sometimes with up to 3 different partners.
We’re a long way from 1950s repression now ladies and gents…
Why?
When you break down the results of the survey further, one commonality runs through – the others – people over 40 are generally far more relaxed and comfortable about asking for what they want. There is no dancing about when it comes to talking openly and frankly about what they want sexually. The only older people who aren’t having as much sex are those without partners or who are recently widowed.
Instead of doing the requisite dating game, men and women in their 40s, 50s and 60s tend to be open and up front with a prospective partner. If they want sex, they will be open and honest about the fact that they want sex. In the words of one respondent Henry Tadler from South Carolina;
“I don’t have time to waste on finding out whether or not I want to sleep with a woman on the first date. If I want to do it I will let her know and usually this works both ways. It saves time!”
Sensible words.
So why can’t we all do it when we’re younger?
Inexperience and Social Taboo
When you’re in your 20s and 30s, most of the time you’re still a bit of a fuck head. You aren’t entirely comfortable with yourself and who you are. Therefore you have trouble communicating with the opposite sex over what it is you want. And if you’re not sure, then the object of your sexual desire sure as hell isn’t going to be sure over you.
It doesn’t help that we’re constantly slammed with what is and isn’t acceptable in modern society whilst at the same time being assaulted with huge swathes of sexualised imagery.
It’s no wonder that the younger generation find themselves wondering just what the hell they are and are not allowed to do sexually.
Adopt the older ‘I don’t give a fuck!’ attitude
So what can we learn from this older more sexualised generation of bed hopping 50 year olds? Firstly that we should never be afraid to go for what we want and say what we want sexually. If you like someone; tell them. If you don’t, chalk it up to experience and move on instead of wasting both your times trying to see if your gut feelings are wrong. (Hint; 9 times out of 10, your gut is telling the truth)
Happy fucking!
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