We have talked about poly relationships before in this blog, but recently we’ve had a few emails asking more questions about it. Some snippets include;
I think I’m in an open relationship but how do I know for sure?
My boyfriend has asked me if I’d be interested in having other boyfriends as well as him. I’ve thought about it but I don’t know if he’s asking out of jealously or if he wants permission to have other girlfriends as well. What do I do?
I really like two men I’ve been dating equally and would like to ask both if they would be willing to share me as a girlfriend, how do I broach the subject?
Like we said just a few questions. So I’m going to try and answer them one at a time.
1. I think I’m in an open relationship, but how do I know for sure?
This smacks to me of someone who’s just started dating someone (possibly a fuck buddy) but isn’t yet sure what the ground rules of a casual relationship are. The best ways to resolve this problem is to simply talk to the person you’re fucking/dating and ask them. If they’re honest they’ll tell you whether or not they’re sleeping with other people. If you’re not sure that you want to share them with other people then you need to ask yourself if an open relationship is actually for you.
2. My boyfriend has asked me if I’d be interested in having other boyfriends as well as him. I’ve thought about it but I don’t know if he’s asking out of jealously or if he wants permission to have other girlfriends as well. What do I do?
The answer is very similar to the one above; talk to your boyfriend/girlfriend. First of all you need to take them at their word rather then start thinking about all the possible ways they could be lying to you. If they have broached the subject with you then let’s assume they’re simply doing you the courtesy of asking your opinion. Either way you need to sit down and talk about it and go from there.
3. I really like two men I’ve been dating equally and would like to ask both if they would be willing to share me as a girlfriend, how do I broach the subject?
Again the answer is the same as the ones above; you simply need to bite the bullet and talk to them both. However before you launch in and ask, take a moment to look at yourself as well. Is this something you really want? Can you commit to each of them equally? If you ask yourself these questions first then you’ll be better equipped to talk to both of the men in question. Either way, you do need to talk to them about it.
We’ll run some more pieces on this subject in the coming months as it is something that more and more of our members are interested in learning about.
Happy fucking!
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