Valentines day did not originate in Australia, it is very much an import, but then hey, so much is right now! Valentines day originated in the Roman times. There was a not so narly dude called Emperor Claudius 2nd, who killed two men both called Valentine. I don’t really know the details, but the Catholic Church decided to make a martyr celebration and thus Valentines day was born.
Despite having quote religious roots, the day itself has gone on to become a rather commercialised commodity. Today, there is huge pressure placed on individuals to spend money on valentines day as a way of proving their commitment or love or whatever it is they are “supposed” to be doing. This is largely pushed by the companies that are trying to sell you “stuff”. The obvious example is cards. The only reason that they are able to sell valentines cards is because of the existence of valentines day, or as it has been often called “Hallmark Day”! Flowers are a big one, roses sell more this time of year than any other time of year apart from mothers day which does win out. Dinners in restaurants become more popular, and some places hike their prices up for the evening to match the demand! This is really not helped by some of the Australia A-listers who have really gone ahead and blown large amounts of money to make sure that they have done valentines day right. Skye Wheatly (see the photo) has taken it very seriously, and Tash Oakley went all the way to Paris with her personal trainer of a boyfriend in order to celebrate the day. There were a lot of photos of red roses!
So with all that pressure to perform, to spend money, to really top the neighbours next door and the other people posting on facebook with what ever it was they received or did, how can you top this? What should you do?
Well firstly, ignore the pressure. If you want to ignore valentines entirely, that is well within your right.
If you do want to do something, that’s great, but don’t feel like you have a standard to keep up to. There is no way that anyone can live up to the fake standard that is portrayed on Instagram and facebook.
Do it your way. Whatever that is. Maybe that is similar to other people, maybe it is flowers and dinner. However, if that is not you, don’t do it. If you thing is rope play and bringing a little kinkiness to the bedroom, then do that. Don’t flake out on what is true to yourself
So if you are going to do valentines do it your way, not someone else's way.
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