Thanks to the internet and websites like F-Buddy, finding willing sexual partners for casual hooks up has never been easier. Previous to the existence of the online dating sites people were forced to try and find partners from the limited pool of people in their immediate circle. Now thanks to the technology revolution people can simply log on now have access to pool of thousands of woman / men to choose from. This new age where the number of people is so huge has massively increased the likelihood of managing to find someone of the correct compatibility. This means that finding someone to have sex with has never been so easy.
Add to this the more modern relaxed attitude of non-monogamy. Having “friends with benefits” means no longer restricting yourself to simply one sexual partner as an honest and above the board agreement between the two of you. This can lead to a situation where you are sleeping with multiple people, and the history of your partner could be equally questionable. This is why it is more important than ever to be safe.
Since we are more motivated by looking after ourselves than someone we do not know that well, I am going to focus on the reasons that you should be motivated to be safe for completely selfish reasons.
STD’s – the BIG ONE
You never want to get an STD.
Ever
Period
Whilst this should be explanation enough, let me give you an example of the most mild case that I ever encountered. A friend of mine was once dating a girl who got herpes. She told him of course, and that left him in a situation where it was entirely possible that he had given her herpes. It caused him and her massive issues. There was no win here:
• Did he give it to her? If so he is a dick
• Did she have it from a previous man – in which case she comes across as unsafe and promiscuous
• Did she give it to him – in which case she is the dick
I could go on – but my point is made. There is no win here.
What you should be doing:
Be safe:
• Use a condom when you first start sleeping with someone
• When you are looking to move away from condoms, have a proper discussion about it. It can be short, just mention it first, do not spring it on someone
• Before sleeping with someone without a condom, you should both get tested, that way you know you have a clean slate
• For pregnanacy, if the girl says she is on the pill, check in with her every so often and make sure it is happening. If you are the girl, make sure it is happening.
That’s it. Just a few simple steps and your life of abundant sex can take place without any unexpected surprises!
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