It’s quite strange, but apart from Cosmopolitan, FHM and a few other lifestyle mags, there is still a societal image that women prefer sex to be in a long term stable relationship.
If you’re reading this right now, you’ll know that is total and utter bollocks.
So why do we as a society still seem to have a tendency to hide from this? Why can’t we just accept that men and women like casual sex equally?
Social Conditioning Strikes Again
Despite evidence dating back before the start of the 20th Century, the general consensus exists that men enjoy and are allowed to enjoy casual sex more than women. Damaging articles like one written by Natalie Kitroeff from the New York Times blog, argue that the playing field between men and women when it comes to achieving orgasm during casual sex versus a stable relationship is extremely uneven. The article cites just one case of a 23 year old who didn’t achieve orgasm during a causal hook up, then goes on to cite that in casual relationships 80% of men are more likely to achieve orgasm as opposed to only 40% of women.
Well, no shit Sherlock!
Kitroeff should know that it takes less time to make a man come then it does to rub your hands together. Women we all know, take a little longer sometimes and in a casual relationship just like a long term relationship, sometimes the man doesn’t spend as much time trying to please his partner. That doesn’t mean women enjoy casual sex any less as there are many examples of casual relationships where both partners enjoy orgasm during sex.
Solution
If you are in a casual sex relationship, (which again if you’re reading this you most likely are) then the chances are you’ve probably experienced orgasm with different people at least once. If you’re a woman reading this then we’d be fascinated to hear your thoughts on orgasm during casual sex. Based on a quick poll we did in the office, 70% of the women we asked have enjoyed orgasm during a casual hook up or longer casual sex relationship.
When we asked the women who hadn’t enjoyed orgasm during casual sex the common response was that they had only slept with one or two different partners. The women who had enjoyed orgasm had slept with several or more different partners. This in our view proved that it isn’t about the playing field not being level, but the fact that some men are better at giving a woman an orgasm then others. More importantly, some men actively want their partner to achieve orgasm during casual sex, whereas some men couldn’t care less.
So the solution ladies is simple; if you’re not happy with someone you’ve slept with, don’t sleep with them again. Try some other options. There are plenty available.
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