It sounds like a question we should have asked a long time ago as both men and women have been guilty of doing this for years. So before I continue on discussing this ask yourself seriously; do you rate everyone you sleep with out of ten and if you do, how often do you do it?
Answer: We all do it…but we allow for nerves
We asked everyone who works for f-buddy whether or not they rate a new partner based on sexual performance and the answer was a resounding ‘Weeeellll…..yes…’ It seems people didn’t want to admit to it, but they all do it. When we broadened our search criteria a little further we discovered that men and women rate a new partner quite regularly based on their first sexual encounter.
This is enough to send shivers running down the spine of any man or woman, but there is no need to panic so much as it turns out that we are all likely to overlook any problems the first time we have sex with someone if we like them enough to want to sleep with them again. First date nerves are quite common and first time you have sex nerves even more so, so it is comforting to know that we are willing to give someone another chance if they didn’t exactly rock our world the first time round.
Casual VS Serious Sex Rating
We did discover a significant difference in the way we rate a partner’s sexual performance based on how well we know them. For example; someone you know and have been dating for longer then a month but who doesn’t exactly rock your world the first time you sleep together will more likely be given a second or third chance to try again. However we are more likely to be brutal with our sexual ratings when it comes to casual sex. The reason for this is fairly obvious; as it is casual we want it to be the best sex possible the first time round because we know there may not be a second time.
Is this healthy?
Yes and no. We will always naturally judge one another based on appearance, likes, personality, mannerism, body types, and sexual compatibility. In this respect whether it is healthy to rate someone in bed or not becomes a moot point as we all do it subconsciously most of the time.
Should you be worried?
Absolutely not and if you can answer the following question you’ll see why; would you really want to sleep with someone who thought you were bad in bed again? Answer: No. It doesn’t mean you were bad, it just means you weren’t compatible sexually right away.
Happy fucking!
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