We've covered 2 of the three parts of getting yourself the sex life that you desire through the power of self esteem but today we are landing at the core of this topic and that is truly learning to accept who you are and loving yourself for who you are and being thankful for how awesome you and your life is.
This is a tough task for many to achieve though because we have so many ways to find out how insufficient we are in so many different ways in this day and age. You can look and find people that are a thousand times better at pretty much anything than you in an instant and that's not even to mention how idealised the visions of beauty that we see everyday are setting expectations that are impossible to reach for most people especially without the resources it takes to achieve those looks.
So we all get into the mind set of expecting to have no faults, to have no weaknesses and to appear perfect or else hide away so that no one will see us fail to meet the extremely high standards we expect to reach. This leads to dissatisfaction because by definition not everybody can be the 'special' ones, the ones that are most successful, and powerful and attractive.
So the solution you ask? The solution is to take a step back and look at the world we all live in, the real flesh and blood human world you walk through each and everyday and take a deep breath. What do you see? Hundreds if not thousands of people doing the best they can with the limitations that they have. We are all in the same boat, we are all struggling everyday to keep up with whatever we feel we should be doing. Even those models that make us feel so bad about how we look, they have daily problems that stress them out and lead them to struggling sometimes. You and I are all part of a massive system that is in no way perfect, in fact it is defined more by it's inherent dysfunction rather than order. So when you look at the problems you have, and the things about yourself that you hate, do not focus on how far you are from what you want to be but on hat you CAN do as the person you are today.
It sounds simple and in theory the ideas are but it comes to the implementation that the complexity shows itself. You will always have hard times where you wish things could be different but as long as through all that you remember that you love you, that you are good and mean well then you can get through those times.
Follow this path I have set out and you will get laid more.
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