One of the best things about a fuck buddy, is that you have the opportunity to have some of the best sex of your life. The focus of your relationship with that person is purely physical. You have none of the commitment or annoying distractions of a monogamous relationship. Instead, you are focused purely on the sex. This can lead to some amazing sex sessions, and as we have spoken about before, sex is extremely good for you on so many levels. I honestly believe that perhaps the secret to world peace may be everyone getting laid more.
One of the best things you can do with your fuck buddy once you have found them, is to make a sex yes/no/maybe list. If you have already done this stop reading this now and get back to the bedroom immediately! If you haven’t, or you don’t know what one is, read on and allow me to explain.
The best sex is when you completely let go and just go crazy on each other. One of the barriers to this is confidence. How do you know the other person is really up for whatever it is you are doing? No one wants to have sex without proper consent. Aside from being illegal with some severe jail sentences if you do, it often also leads to bad sex. Your joy comes from their enthusiastic participation in whatever is happening. So you want them to be on board. Say you want to do something a little spontaneous, you want to do things in the moment without discussing them? Well, this is where a sex list comes into its own.
A sex list is where you take a long list of things that you might choose to do, and with your fuck buddy or friend with benefits, you go through it, marking each one with a yes, no or a maybe. There is a really good sex list here that you can download as a pdf. Next to each one you mark it as a yes, no, maybe. You can also pick “I don’t know” if you are unsure, and you can change your mind at any time. This list is just a foundation to measure where you think you are at right now. There is nothing stopping you from changing it at any point. The writer of this list also added in the option of “fantasy” which is something that you like to think about but you wouldn’t necessarily want to take place in the real world.
A really good sex list can up your game in the bedroom, allowing both of you to know where the boundaries are. Rather than restrict you, it will actually free you, giving you the confidence to boldly stride to areas close to the boundary, safe in the knowledge that you know how not to cross the line.
So, if you haven’t made a sex list, give it a go! As a tried and tested method, it is a great way to explore your sexuality together.
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